"If you’re under 30 and in a relationship right now, and you’re not head over heels, get out. You are way too young to be wasting your time with someone who doesn’t make you really happy to be with them every day. There’s nothing sadder than watching 23-year-olds settle."
This just hit so hard
"I am a feminist. I’ve been female for a long time now. I’d be stupid not to be on my own side."
Maya Angelou (via robert-winchester-novak)
if johnny rain doesn’t become the next big thing, i completely give up on this/the next generation’s musical appreciation
"Growth is painful. Change is painful.But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong."
Mandy Hale (via exiie)
What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”
When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general."
dear teenage girls
Life is so much more than a broken heart. Stop filling your journals with lovers and crushes. Stop doodling his name on the corners of your homework pages. Turn off the radio - pop songs are dripping in unrequited love.
Reinvent the naive lust for adventure you had as a child, when everything was androgynous and platonic. Go on dates with yourself before anyone else. You are worth a thousand suns that would burn holes through his withering love.
"I am excited to see a generation of women who will raise their boys to be good rather than their girls to be scared."
My grandfather’s hands shook as he raised the fork with his neatly speared salmon to his lips. I couldn’t look away, but I was afraid he would miss his gaping mouth. I felt struck, suddenly, inexplicably, with sadness. A day to day activity that seemed like nothing to me, and maybe to him, was suddenly being worn down by simply having another day added to his life.
It’s instances like these - my grandfather’s trembling hands, my mother’s accidental stutter of words, my co-worker’s limp to the food court - that make me feel the most emotionally vulnerable . Suddenly these people are isolated from their situation and their humanity is overexposed, saturated in their weaknesses.
I have to turn away to shield them from seeing the budding drops in the corners of my eyes.
One: Buy condoms. Buy them and keep them with you at all times, and use them before you are asked to use them. And use them every time. The peace of mind you allow your partner will free her to be vulnerable with you, and that, my son, is exactly what sex is about. Condoms are sexy. In fact, call buying condoms foreplay.
(Footnote: If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms, you are not ready to have sex.)
Two: Kissing is not merely foreplay. Spend entire evenings making out on the couch while fully clothed. Believe me, dry-humping rocks.
Three: Sex is not just about friction. It’s about emotion. Stop trying to find her clitoris and find her heart. Because then she’ll help you find her clitoris.
Four: If you really wanna know how to please a woman, ask her how she masturbates. Then do that. A lot. If she claims she doesn’t masturbate, offer to take her shopping for a vibrator so you can both learn the vocabulary of her body together.
Five: Don’t put anything in her butthole you wouldn’t want in your own.
(Footnote: Try a pinky finger, it’s kinda awesome.)
Six: When you go down on her—and you will go down on her, and if you are my son, you will be amazing at it—tell her how good she tastes. Stop in the middle and kiss her deeply so she knows how good she tastes. Do the same when she goes down on you.
Seven: A simple Google search will yield 1,327 euphemisms for male masturbation, yet only 23 for female masturbation. If guys spent less time jacking off and more time jilling off, this world would be a happier place.
Eight: Everything you need to know about the importance of the clitoris is in the movie Star Wars. You are Luke Skywalker piloting your penis-shaped X-Wing Fighter deep inside her trench. Remember: seventy percent of all Death Stars cannot be blown up through penetration of the trench alone. It must be through focused contact with that little exhaust port at the top of the trench. Otherwise, any explosions you experience will be merely Hollywood special effects.
Nine: Just because you come doesn’t mean she has, so don’t you dare come before her. Focus completely on your partner. Don’t worry about gettin’ yours, you’re a guy. You always get yours. Your job is to make sure she’s gettin’ hers.
Ten: If sex with your partner lasts no longer than this poem, you are not making love. You are masturbating with her body instead of your hand. Shame on you. Go back to step one. You’ve got a lot of learning to do.
Big Poppa E., “How To Make Love” (via disappolnted)